This chapter of the book is a bit like a questionnaire, lots of questions for you to answer and ponder.
We all train to defend ourselves, but how many of you train to defend or protect other members of your family? From parents protecting children, each other or as working as a team where one parent is protecting and one parent is escaping with the child or children, to the nanny or Au Pair protecting their employers children.
Third party defence is harder than it seems, not only do you need to be armed with the physical skills but what you also need are set drills.
Of course before we get to the latter stages, awareness and common sense must come into play.
Here are a few examples of everyday activities. I want you to answer the questions honestly either as A) Never B) Sometimes or C) Always
1. You are getting into your car or putting your child into the protective seat. Do you look around you as you are doing this?
A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always
2.While you are out with your children in the park, how often do you let them get more than 5 metres away from you?
A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always
3. While in a busy shopping area, how often do you let your children get more than 1 metre away from you?
A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always
4. How often when your child was / is in a pram did you move more than 3 metres away?
A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always
5. You take your child to school or your partner to work and pick them up later. How often do you let them walk from the car into school / work and back again without escorting them or watching them arrive safely?
On quiet days A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always
On busy days A) Never B) Sometimes C) Always

Do you know who is around you?
For those of you who constantly train in the hard and soft skills I can hear you saying to yourself 'But there are too many variables to answer A, B, or C and in a sense you are correct, but only insofar that I have just put these thoughts in your head.
How many actually do what you say on a subconscious level and act on it every single time you leave home? By this I mean you do not need to be prompted (as above) to be switched on. If you do great, if you don't maybe you will now.
Now let us look at some basic awareness skills.
Do you check:
Outside, before you leave the building you are in when possible?
The immediate vicinity of your car?
The inside of your car before you get in?
The entranceway to your house on arrival?
Train platforms / bus stops before getting on or off?
Could you do any of the above and more while carrying children, bags, pushing prams, when your tired, when it's dark, raining, your arguing with your partner?
Could you keep calm enough to give your partner or older child instructions while defending them from a crazed attacker, would they even listen to you?
Could you get someone out of your car or stop them from getting in your car to hurt your family?
Have you ever done any physical scenario training with family members, have you ever practiced defending your child or partner while having to use a pram?
What should your partner be doing while you are defending them? are the children old enough to run, when should they run and where?
What should you, your partner and your child do if one of them is grabbed?
What tactics should you use on buses, underground, in busy environments, in narrow allyways?

How quickly could someone disappear with your child or partner on a busy street like this?
The chances of anything happening to you or your family are very slim, but you can cut those slim chances down even further.
Stay Dangerous
Rock